Happy New Year!!
Hope you had a good New Year’s Eve – and not the typical annual anticlimax.
My tip for a good New Year’s Eve is to have low expectations and to surround yourself with great, fun people.
So often we go into the New Year with intentions of becoming a new, better, shinier version of ourselves – to embody some imaginary avatar ideal. Personally, I think this is unrealistic and, quite frankly, unsustainable. Surely we want to become more of the person we were made to be rather than a reflection of someone else we wish we were like?
Over the years I’ve had my fair share of resolutions –
- Swear less
- Save more
- Don’t spit my gum out on the street
- Say yes more
- Say no more!
I’ve never gone in for the no chocolate option – it just wouldn’t be right. And a dry January is out of the question as my birthday is on the 18th (just FYI!!). To be honest though, given my lack of success with the other resolutions, the no chocolate or alcohol probably wouldn’t last that long anyway. The only one from this list that I have managed to keep to is ‘don’t spit my gum out on the street’ – I can’t believe I ever did that, so gross!
In 2012 I devoted myself to twelve months of a No Fear Year. I went on stage, visited someone in prison, became a mentor, rode a horse and a few other things too. I’d intended to have a difficult and long overdue conversation with someone, but it took me slightly longer to work up to that one. I finally got round to it this last year and the No Fear Year really helped give me the confidence to go for it.
For the past few years, I have taken to going with a good friend of mine to somewhere with a view so we can regain perspective on life.
We think through what we want to do with our lives and then write a list of all the things we will aim to do in the next year. The goal is to put enough down to push ourselves but not so much that it daunts us into doing nothing.
It has been said that we tend to overestimate what we can achieve in a year, and underestimate what we can achieve in five years. As far as the overestimation goes, I have certainly found this to be the case!
Here are some of the things I have so far failed to do since beginning the lists:
- Go to Paris – specifically to Entrecôte (I’ve now done this)
- Go to Italy
- Go to New York
- See Il Trovatore
- Fall in love
- Explore more of London
- Expand my cooking repertoire
And here are some of the things that I have ticked off my lists:
- Go to California to visit a good friend
- Go to Singapore to visit my sister
- Go out dancing more
- Buy a MacBook
- Read the Bible twice
- Go to the Saatchi Gallery
- Be more creative
Where I haven’t managed to do something, I’ll either add it to my list for the following year or decide I don’t want to do it after all.
Having done this for a few years now, I’ve realised the key with these things is to be specific. Perhaps, rather than aiming to explore more of London, I should have written ‘Go to five restaurants, cafés or bars I haven’t been to before’. Or maybe if I’d aimed to cook ten new things this year I would have had more success.
My list for 2014 is still taking shape but a few things will definitely be going on it:
- Go to Israel (I’ve now done this)
- Fall in love (that one will have to be carried over)
- Start vlogging (apologies if you’re already feeling spammed with my nailart!)
I was going to put ‘start using acrylic paints for nailart’ but I just bought some and couldn’t wait until 2014 to try them out. I painted some nailart inspired by Van Gogh’s Starry Night ready for this year’s regain-perspective-session.
I hope you’ve had a good enough break to regain some perspective and you go into 2014 motivated to try new things so that when the next New Year’s Eve rolls around you’ll be looking back over twelve months of fulfilled dreams.